It’s Me, I’m the Problem: A Workbook on Rediscovering Yourself

What if the problem isn't that you're broken?

What if the behaviors, reactions, coping mechanisms, and patterns that keep showing up in your life were actually learned responses to pain, trauma, fear, loss, rejection, or survival?

And what if those patterns can be changed?

It's Me, I'm the Problem is not a book about blame, shame, or beating yourself up. It's a book about honest self-awareness, personal responsibility, healing, and growth.

Written from lived experience by Certified Recovery Coach Kathy Simmons, this workbook helps readers explore the difference between who they truly are and the survival patterns they developed along the way.

Inside, we'll explore:
• Self-awareness without self-hatred
• Why we repeat unhealthy patterns
• Trauma, survival mode, and identity
• The inner critic and negative self-talk
• Boundaries, guilt, and people-pleasing
• Accountability without shame
• Rediscovering yourself beyond chaos and crisis
• Integrity, alignment, and daily choices
• Faith, healing, and personal growth

Each chapter includes:
• Real Talk
• Mirror Moments
• Faith & Grounding
• Straight Talk Checks
• Rediscovery Exercises

This workbook is designed to help you slow down, look honestly at your life, and begin making changes from a place of compassion rather than condemnation.
You won't find perfection here.

You'll find honesty.
You'll find encouragement.
You'll find practical tools.
You'll find faith.

Most importantly, you'll find permission to stop running from yourself and start getting to know yourself again.

Whether you're in recovery, healing from trauma, struggling with codependency, navigating major life changes, or simply feeling stuck in old patterns, this workbook offers a roadmap toward greater self-understanding and freedom.
The goal isn't to become someone else.

The goal is to become someone you can live with.

Someone you trust.
Someone you respect.
Someone you no longer have to run from.

Because the truth is:
You are not the problem.
Your patterns were.
And patterns can be unlearned.

— Kathy Simmons, CRC
Founder, The Other Side of Rock Bottom